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How often does someone ask, “How are you doing?” and we automatically respond, “Fine,” even when we are feeling anything but fine?

It’s something we all do. Sometimes it feels easier to hide our disappointment, worries, or insecurities than to let others see how we really feel. We put on invisible masks, use filters, or build walls around ourselves because being vulnerable can be uncomfortable.

During a recent chapel service, Chaplain Annie invited our students to explore authenticity, our character value for October, and what it means to have the courage to be ourselves.

Authenticity is about allowing the person we are on the inside to match the person we show to the world. It means being honest about our feelings, embracing what makes us unique, and recognizing that we don’t have to pretend to be someone else to be accepted.

Chaplain Annie offered students two possible responses to not making a sports team:

“I didn’t even want to make the team anyway.”

Or:

“I’m really disappointed. I worked hard, and this mattered to me.”

The second response takes more courage. It requires us to be vulnerable, to admit that something matters to us, and to risk letting others see our disappointment. But that honesty is also what allows us to form genuine connections with others.

One of the most meaningful messages Chaplain Annie shared was a simple reminder: You are enough. You are loved.

You are enough even when you make mistakes. You are loved even when you don’t succeed. You are worthy of belonging even when you aren’t friends with everyone.

And there is something wonderfully freeing about embracing who we really are. When we stop worrying so much about how others perceive us, we make room for joy. We allow our personalities, interests, talents, and quirks to shine through. We give others the opportunity to know us, not just the version of ourselves we think they want to see.

As Chaplain Annie reminded our students, God does not ask us to be perfect versions of someone else. Rather, we are invited to become more fully the unique individuals we were created to be.

Of course, authenticity doesn’t happen overnight. It begins with small moments of courage: sharing an honest feeling with a trusted friend, trying something new without worrying about looking silly, admitting when something is difficult, or simply allowing ourselves to be different.

At The Gooden School, we want our students to know that they don’t have to wear a mask to belong. Our community is richer because of the different personalities, perspectives, gifts, and experiences each child brings.

As we continue through October, I hope we can all take Chaplain Annie’s invitation to heart and challenge ourselves to be a little more authentic, a little more vulnerable, and a little more willing to celebrate what makes each of us unique.

Because at Gooden, you are enough. You are loved. And we want to know the wonderfully unique person you were created to be.